“A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.”
I am very quick to anger…at home. I seem to have more patience at school (because my job depends on it) and by the time I get home, it is mostly gone. When I get off work, I am worn out and there is no down time with two toddlers running around. My three year old is in the middle of the terrible two’s/three’s and it can be hard sometimes at the end of a long day to give patience. One of my friends told me that the terrible two’s must not refer to age. She thinks it refers to the fact that it seems to last two years! (Oh great..HAHA)
I go to Pinterest sometimes when I need some good ideas. I found this idea on Dirt & Boogers with a great tip on how to stop yelling at my kids and it has been a great idea so far! I have posted hearts throughout the house to remind me not to yell and I really feel like it has worked! I used bright pink hearts (because pink is Jujubean’s favorite color) and have them posted in Jujuean’s bedroom, bathroom, and the kitchen. She is not a morning person AT ALL (she gets that from Babe) and it is like wrestlemania in the mornings to get her dressed. This seems to be when I lose my patience the most and there have been days I have prayed to Jesus out loud to help me calm down while she is kicking and screaming because she doesn’t want to put pants on.
This idea has worked so well at home that I decided to try it out in my classroom too! I have hearts posted all around my classroom so as not to raise my voice with my students. I have them on my computer and placed near the ceiling on the walls so when I’m looking at my kids, I can just look up and find one. Anytime I feel that I am losing my patience at school or at home, I just look for a heart. I immediately reflect on how I am feeling and try my best not to raise my voice.
This idea has been a great one and has helped me tremendously. I still have a long ways to go with my developing patience, but I feel like these physical reminders are excellent for keeping me grounded and helping me to be aware of how I speak to my kids (daughters and students). I still lose my cool here and there, but this has definitely helped my awareness and it is hard to fix a problem that I am unaware of!
Do you have any more tips on how you keep your cool?
I would love to hear your ideas!
Thanks for reading and God Bless,